Getting a divorce may be the best way to move forward with your life. However, when you're going through the break-up and custody battle, you may be inspired to examine parts of your life you used to take for granted. You may need to protect your privacy more than ever. Consider these strategies to effectively protect your privacy during your divorce.
Set Social Media Rules for Yourself
Some people choose to delete social media accounts altogether when faced with a divorce. However, you don't have to go to such extremes. You have every right to continue enjoying social media as you see fit, but it's important to carefully consider any online behaviors that could result in negative consequences as part of the divorce.
The court might bring up some social media behaviors during a custody battle. In some situations, it may also affect the division of assets in your divorce. If you find yourself wanting to overshare or vent online, set clear social media rules for yourself. Some rules you may want to set include the following:
Don't discuss the divorce in any way online in public or private messages.
Think about whether you'd be comfortable with your boss or a judge seeing and reading any post you make. (That can happen even if you set your posts to friends-only.)
Don't post photographs of your children or share information about them.
Give yourself a 24-hour cool-off period if you want to rant or vent in a social media post. If you simply need to get out your frustration, try keeping a diary or venting in a private Word document, but don't post it on social media.
Assess your settings on social media so that people can't tag you in photos or post to your timeline without your permission.
If you're not sure which rules you need to set to protect yourself, discuss the situation with your attorney.
Restrict Discussions of the Divorce
You don't owe anybody an explanation about your divorce. Sometimes curious friends, co-workers, and acquaintances may seem to come out of the woodwork during your divorce. While many people simply want to express their support, beware of nosy questions. Decide in advance how you will respond to questions about your divorce.
Some ways you may want to say to politely dismiss inappropriate or simply unwanted questions of your divorce include the following:
Explain that things are still fresh, and you don't want to discuss it right now. There's no need to go into details about the fact that you'll never discuss it with the person.
Change the topic right away without even responding to the question. This can be the best option for some situations, and people will typically get your point.
Ask the person why they need to know that information. This is a no-nonsense response, but it is effective at getting across your point.
The bottom line is that you don't owe anyone except your ex and your kids a single discussion about your divorce. Only discuss it when you feel comfortable with doing so.
Discuss Privacy with Your Ex
Nobody ever got divorced without encountering challenges along the way, but simply reaching out and discussing important matters with your ex can prevent some problems. Directly address matters like privacy and how you both are entitled to it. Before discussing it with your ex, decide which matters you want kept private.
You may start the discussion by extending an olive branch and talking about the importance of mutually respecting each other's privacy. Discuss how you can both realistically protect sensitive information about each other that was shared during the relationship.
Finally, don't assume that your ex is on your side. Take matters into your own hands and prioritize your privacy during your divorce. That's a part of protecting yourself and your children. When you first consider a divorce, contact the caring, knowledgeable attorneys at Gerardin Law Firm for answers to your question and help with every step of your divorce.